Vietnamese children are doomed to being molested

Parents need to combine with the school teaching children about sex and how to detect and handle if accidentally abused

In the Vietnamese people's ideas, the concept of children's virginity quite heavy, this is also the barriers that children do not dare to mention the main ones if abused.

Recently, information Ming Fat Americans arrested in connection with the sexual harassment of children make panicky. At the same time, Vietnamese people panic when the news object Do Van Nam (34 years, protecting La Pan Tan Elementary School, Lao Cai province) is more than 20 students aged 9 to 11 years old, grade 3 to grade 5 school was acting immorally.

It is worth mentioning, this incident happened in the two years would be detected. Each time salacious, he bought candy, snack to seduce or intimidate that students do not dare tell the facts. The real question is why children do not dare to voice our country becoming a victim of sexual abuse?


Subjects South abusing several students over a period of 2 years

Cao Thi Ngan (psychologist) said that children in our country hesitate, did not dare to speak out, accused of sexual abuse for many reasons, but first and foremost is the way of family education and the school. Parents mainly an eye on a child's learning capacity rather than psychology, the change in me. The clearest evidence is whenever you have children, parents mainly asked about today's children learn well? What homework? At the same time, between parents and children rarely sit down to talk about things related to emotions.

In our country, very few parents mentioned about sex education with their children. Even, many parents choose the child learn to forbidden sex. Because of this, children are not mentally prepared for the changes in her own body as well as the people around them. Therefore, the children do not understand about the avoidance and how to behave when the case of abuse or sexual abuse.

Ms. Ngan share, of the children were taken to the family through psychological counseling, many parents admit children never mention sex or how to prevent sexual abuse. Even from a young age, they have a lot of questions about this issue, but not sure what to share, who said the same. And means that we look for to satisfy his answer is the internet or friends.

Some children said had known about sexual abuse and how to prevent sexual abuse from what is read in print. However, when things went he does not know how to handle. They also do not dare to admit to their parents and relatives. Therefore, how children face this alone is gnawing self-torment and self.

According to Ms. Banks, in the teaching program in Vietnam that mention gender issues. However, most schools while teaching them sparingly mentioned, by the teacher also mentioned longer shy. How to avoid the problem of abuse and how to manage when things went how that case will never be taught.

One more thing worth mentioning is the ideology of the Vietnamese people, virginity children in general, but the girls are more severe. This is also the barriers that children do not dare to mention the main ones if abused. By Young said this is very serious, can affect life. Young afraid conference aisle, everyone's judgment. Therefore, how children choose if you accidentally become victims of sexual abuse cases are silent, resigned.



Nguyen Ly Hien Nga (Programme Officer Child Rights Management) said that, in the process of work has drawn four principles that parents need to know.

Principle 1: The right to inviolability of the body. Anyone, no matter which older people are not entitled: touching sensitive parts of the body of the child; Children require touching sensitive parts of their body; photography, film, drawing the sensitive parts of the body of the child.

Rule 2: When someone tries to touch the sensitive parts of the body of the child, or ask the child to touch the sensitive parts of their body, or want to photograph / film sets sensitive parts of the body of the child, he just said "NO". At the same time, run to find a reliable person and tell him hear what just happened.

Principle 3: Children are always victims. The sensitive parts of the body of the child was never touched the child's fault. So, anyone should not blame or condemn the victim.

Rule 4: Never keep secrets when 3 above principles are violated.

In addition, parents should also teach children about the touching behavior is safe and what is unsafe. In Vietnam, the abuse, sexual harassment is no longer a strange thing. Therefore, it is best to orient the parents, help your child to recognize clearly the problem, not because of embarrassment that prohibits children learn to make it happen pity when new remorse.